Petrol Scarcity Wahala






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A reader shares my sentiments that women generally are a piece of work and very hard to deal with. I agree that sometimes we women hear words that tend to change the intended meaning in our heads and this usually happens when we interact with people. We hear something different with the spouses, our children, and with friends. The voice we hear when we deal with spouses is usually the violent one that is ready to fight. I admit that not all women are wired this way, there are just a few peaceful ones like me! 

 

This Lilea’s blog reader says that giving out the suitcase was not a big deal shared his story of how his wife made a mountain out of a molehill. It happened during one of those petrol scarcity periods in Lagos. People hoarded petrol and selected only the extremely necessary places to go to. This was the case in OG’s house (OG is not his real name) at that time and he shared a car with his wife. He had gone out that Saturday morning to run some important errands, with the purchase of petrol being top on his list. 

 

He had queued for a long time before he was able to buy petrol and his beautiful wife was kept abreast of his movements. He drove from the petrol station to the store to buy a few groceries as requested by wifey and it was while he was at the store that his cousin saw him. They were both at the cashiers’ points and after they paid for their groceries, they walked out together to the parking lot. 

 

They gisted for a while and when he wanted to leave, asked his cousin where she parked her car; she burst out laughing, "drive ke, in this fuel scarcity?" she was going to walk out to the road and stop a yellow taxi, she did not live too far away anyway. OG immediately offered her a ride home which she gladly accepted as she jokingly told him that she was cautious about asking for a ride because of the petrol scarcity situation.

On the way to his cousin's house, OG's wife called to find out if he was almost home; she had a wedding to attend and was running late, OG explained that he ran into his cousin at the stores and offered to drop her at home.  All hell was let loose as his wife accused him of being insensitive to her and what she had to do. She was also mad at him that he should be saving petrol and that it was not a time to play Mr. Niceguy. She was gone by the time OG got back home, she found her way to the wedding and in OG's words, "she royally ignored me when she got back home". The one time she spoke to him later that night, she called him a wicked man and accused him of treating her without respect just because he had married her.  He said that wifey acted like the couple wouldn't have gotten married if she wasn't at the wedding.  This simply means that OG did not think that attending the wedding was important. 

He also said that he had saved enough petrol to take her to and fro work throughout the week and so she was pleasantly surprised on Monday as he drove her to work that they did not have to join the incredibly long queue of frustrated drivers waiting to fill their tanks. She never apologized for unleashing her venom on her husband. While I accept that women overreact sometimes and many women are suspicious of their husband's female cousins, I must also admit that OG should have considered that his wife had a wedding to attend; that should have come first, she had every right to be upset. What do you think?

It will not surprise me to read from some people supporting  OG. This marriage business is really unique.

7 Comments

  1. I can't help either of them. The cousin wasn't stranded and the wife wasn't the officiating priest. A little consideration on both sides would have helped the situation.

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  2. Again, "sorry o... Uncle OG" LOL, wetin Musa (Man) no go see for gate (marriage or relationship). I think the male gender is the most misunderstood living creature. If he does anything or doesn't, there is most likely a backlash due him. Unfortunately, OG is an example of "Mr. Nice Guy", an even more endangered subspecies of the human male.☺️

    I do not see anything wrong with what he did but the rule above applies - you do, you no do, wahala fit deh. The cousin's place was not far as you stated, so a 5-15 minutes drive shouldn't have been an issue. Well, that's if this his "cousin" is not a new and unknown cousin o. Or could it be that his wife's reaction was caused by a previous issue🤔 or maybe it's just one of those days that Auntie was really really sensitive emotionally, which made Uncle match P easily... I know there are days like that too.

    From deeper thoughts... By saying OG didn't respect her because he went ahead to help his cousin would be that she placed herself and the cousin on a scale in her mind. I think this would be unfair on OG as it could make it difficult for him to help naturally, when a similar need for help comes up in future.

    Anyway, from experience, my resolve is Uncle OG should just have apologized for delaying his wife or at least called her when he was about setting out with his cousin, to let her know there would be a delay. Maybe that could have helped to avoid the WW3.5!😅

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  3. Women generally, we don't like ourselves that deeply. So, if she is one known cousin she is not pleased with, the qnger will be double triggered. If the cousin is not known at all. It is tripple triggered. Wether her place is far or near, it doesn't matter to her, as far as she is concern, he choose his cousin's convinience over. Shikena! We are wired to be jealous and some are extreme.

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  4. The woman has wahala, she is lucky she has a responsible, caring man that is not selfish.

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  5. For me the wife certainly over reacted and should have apologised. What if OG spent more time at Petrol station b4 buying fuel? Dropping his cousin didn't take much time. So why the fuse? She's just ill tempered and certainly has no respect for OG. It was a wedding not a trip to heaven.

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  6. Hmmmm... Well, if this 'Cousin's house isn't far or too off his way home, then the wife may have overreacted. But if doing cousin off took little or no time extra, then madam is right.

    However, it's a known fact that many men usually put 3rd parties first above their families, especially their wives. This fact must have contributed to his wife's anger.

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