Dear Lilea's Blog,
I have been married for fifteen years to a wonderful man. Our marriage is one to be envied because we are quite close and almost cannot function without each other.
I may be wrong but I can confidently say that my husband is a hundred percent faithful to me.
Some months ago, I followed my friend to her church where I heard the pastor say that oral sex was a sin to be avoided by married couples.
Ever since, I stopped allowing oral sex with my husband. I have also tried to explain things to him and make him save his soul too but he has refused to accept.
For the first time, my marriage is under an attack; the devil doesn't want us to do the right thing and so is attacking our home.
My husband loves oral sex and so is finding it hard to comprehend. I tried to let him have his way once since my new way and afterwards I felt really dirty and horrible.
I love my husband but will rather please God. What do I do now? I don't want him to get outside what he can't get inside. Please advise.
Me: if it's written in the bible then obey it. If it's not then it's your choice to make. This to me is a thing of the mind. If you feel bad after any action then that action is not good for you even if it's something as simple as over eating.
Whatever makes you feel bad is not good for you. That's how I deal with such issues
There's nothing wrong with oral sex if the couple is comfortable with it. People should keep their doctrines out of the marriage bed.
ReplyDeleteHave heard a lot of doctrines and teachings that kicks against oral sex.
ReplyDeleteMy advice for her is "the fact that it was an outright conviction for her doesn't mean it must be for a hubby, she should follow it up with prayer for her hubby to see reasons with her".
Have heard a lot of doctrines and teachings that kicks against oral sex.
ReplyDeleteMy advice for her is "the fact that it was an outright conviction for her doesn't mean it must be for a hubby, she should follow it up with prayer for her hubby to see reasons with her".
The woman should go and read the Bible chapter, Songs of Solomon thoroughly. That pastor is just been mischievous and pontificating rubbish. In the Songs of Solomon, oral sex was depicted between a husband and wife. The book is rather a romantic, erotic and sensual poem about the sex life of married couples. Unfortunately a lot of these half illiterate Bible clutching businessmen, masquerading as pastor will never read the Word of God under the guidance of the Holy Spirit.
ReplyDeleteMrs Wife, go home and read the Word of God, asking The Spirit to enlighten you and go back and take your husband to your bed and give him and only him very sensual lovemaking as the Book of Solomon commands married couples. Take these pastors out of your marriages if you want marital bliss.
Most women respect their Pastor more than their husband! Rubbish!!!
ReplyDeleteTotal rubbish. You can't eat yiur cake and have it again. Men don't go back in habit, you have been having oral sec with him - I assume before and when married newly - suddenly a half wit with lower IQ tells u to stop just to exert his power over you. She is not serious, one day she will wake up and it's too late. Either follow your pastor or husband....your choice. When the man gets fed up please leave the devil out of it.
ReplyDeleteIn this case, the devil isn't doing anything here, you are. Information is power and in this case misinformation has perverted what is pure. Anything done within the confines of matrimony is pure and anyone who tells you otherwise is untruthful. Don't allow yourself be the instrument which will destroy your home, there's nothing wrong with oral sex, biblically and otherwise. Sometimes people tend to preach their opinions and not the word of God, please be wise!!!
ReplyDeleteThere is nothing wrong with oral sex.
ReplyDeleteIs a matter of your conscience my dear. Back your mindset with sincere prayers alongside your hubby. If you have been doing it with him and all of a sudden you started changing, is not acceptable. Get along with your hubby on a heart to heart discussion, if he listens to your opinion FINE! If he does not, get along with him and preserve your marriage and continue with your prayers. Do not let an outsider control your regulations in your inner chambers. Thanks and remain blessed.
ReplyDeleteUr lucky ur not my wife�� I for don enter street for u anumanu.
ReplyDeletePersonally oral sex should not be taboo with married people. However, if the woman does not feel comfortable doing that, she should discuss it with her husband but because a Pastor says it is wrong oh no I do not subscribe to that concept
ReplyDeleteMutual Consent is what is required in marriage. You have been doing it before now as both of you agreed. Are you refusing now because pastor said or because it is not good for your marriage? Anyway, I have not seen in the Bible where it is written to be sin or not. Personally, what you know you will not complete, don't start it.
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