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Ore and Oba got married and had two daughters. One would think that life would be sweet forever for Ore who five years earlier was on top of the world by being head over heels in love with Oba. She wasn't quite prepared for the surprise.
She accepted Oba's suggestion to send her three children from her previous marriage to live with her mother.
Sometimes love is not only blind but also deaf, dumb and stupid ~ my quote ~ Why else would a woman choose a man over her children?
Oba promised to continue to be responsible for their upkeep by sending money periodically to Ore's mother for his step children's wellbeing.
They also both agreed that Ore would travel often to visit her children.
It is one thing to make a promise and another to fulfil it.
As soon as she got pregnant with their first child, Oba stopped her from visiting her children who were by the way living in a village.
And once she had the baby, Oba had an excuse to stop sending money to Ore's mother for the children's upkeep.
He claimed that he had other responsibilities and could not keep up with the demands of the two homes.
Ore took in again just as her first child turned a year old and in all those months she had not seen her children.
The months quickly turned to years and Ore has still not seen or spoken to her children in two years.
Oba's business is no longer lucrative and life has become very frustrating for the couple. Ore says she misses her children, she wants to bring them back to live with her but Oba will not hear any of it.
From every indication her children are out of school and since Oba made her to resign from her job to go back to school she is not able to provide for her children.
Ore also had to defer her studies first because of childbirth and afterwards for lack of funds.
The tables really turned against this couple and one is tempted to ask if they are being punished for abandoning and neglecting those innocent children.
Ore has made up her mind to rescue her children from the hard life she subjected them to; Oba will still not accept that decision.
Ore is bothered about what a second failed marriage will do to her reputation. She's in a dilemma and not sure if she should go ahead and bring her children back and risk losing her marriage a second time.
Me: I will choose my children any day over a responsible husband let alone an irresponsible husband. Oba hid his true character from Ore. The same children he took care of he no longer wants to see.
When he asked Ore to send them to her mother, the signals were all there but Ore blinded by what she thought was love refused to read the bold handwriting on the wall.
She should definitely get her children back . The marriage is dead anyway. What is a marriage without love and laughter which theirs lacks?
Too bad a situation but she must go for her kids. The spirit of those kids are not happy with her.
ReplyDeleteWhy in earth did she chose to stay without the kids. Let her go for her kids for they are her future. She already lost one marriage this one won't be an issue
Lol. Not an issue jare
DeleteI totally agree with your quote...how does a woman chose a man over her children? The children are paramount!
ReplyDeleteOut of excitement of being in love/lust we take decisions that would in the end leave us with regrets and pains.
ReplyDeleteShe got it all wrong from the onset but then in this our society that is the advice you would get. The man would be chosen over the children because society(we) feels her life is incomplete without a man. It takes a strong will woman who isn't biased and who cares less what people would say to chose her children over a man.
My advice to her is to go get her acts together, get a job and go give her children a good life she has denied them of.
She should also have a talk with her hubby and reach a compromise, the fact that they are married and things aren't moving on well shouldn't make them turn a blind eye to their responsibilities.
The man needs some senses to his brain.
1. I am against marriages where one person has all the financial advantages and the other party has NONE. Your spouse is not your parent. You shouldn't let them treat you as one
ReplyDelete2. Two failed marriages shouldn't affect anyone's reputation. and no woman/man should stay in a failing relationship for fear of what people whose opinions shouldn't matter would think of them
3.Your parents shouldn't be raising your kids. Any spouse that doesn't affect your children from previous relationships isn't someone you should be with. Unless of course, you don't want to keep the kids in the 1st place
4. A man who is not parenting your kids shouldn't have to tell you what to do with them/how to raise them
Instinct made me feel the man would make her forget her kids. Another failed marriage shpuldshohuet! Let him just go and get her kids .!
ReplyDeleteNo man can take the place of my kids. Metchewwwwww. KD
ReplyDeleteNot at all surprised by the outcome...saw it coming when he suggested the kids go live with her mom. Sad but not unusual. The life of a single mother and the hardships that come with it are no little feat; it's no wonder a woman like Ore saw a future and solace with Oba because he knew exactly the picture to paint in the beginning to woo her. Lord please give every woman in this position the gift of discernment to see beyond what a man presents in the onset.
ReplyDeleteWith that said, she had better have the courage to go get her children and be the mother to them she ought to be.
Not at all surprised by the outcome...saw it coming when he suggested the kids go live with her mom. Sad but not unusual. The life of a single mother and the hardships that come with it are no little feat; it's no wonder a woman like Ore saw a future and solace with Oba because he knew exactly the picture to paint in the beginning to woo her. Lord please give every woman in this position the gift of discernment to see beyond what a man presents in the onset.
ReplyDeleteWith that said, she had better have the courage to go get her children and be the mother to them she ought to be.
Caring for those children initially are what brings good luck and progress to his business but moments he stopped then spirit of those children get angry too. Pls my advice to her is to bring those children back and let them live happily together with other children from her second marriage if not she will regret her action for life.
ReplyDeleteVery sad...but Ore needs to step up to face the challenges of facing another failed marriage or loose her 3 kids for life
ReplyDeleteOre! Oya, go get your children osiso and carry your cross. It is well with you.
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion, no woman needs the identity of a man to feel human, complete or secure (God in His immeasurable love has guaranteed us all that irrespective of our circumstances or state of life). She needs to get her kids back. Possibly, the marriage might survive it if the man can accept the kids. I would never trade my kids for any man. Never, esp these days some come 2 a penny.
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